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Why JOI?

I love doing JOIs (jerk off instructions) because I think it’s a really fun thing to do and creates a positive experience for my viewers and myself. When I first got into camming, I had never heard of a JOI and when I found out what it was, I was shocked to find out that women telling men what to do with their cocks was a thing! Once I realized that it was a form of submission, I totally understood. I love the idea of giving up control and being told what to do, especially sexually. However, being a natural submissive, myself, I had a hard time getting used to the idea of instructing not only one person to stroke his cock to orgasm, but hundreds. Jason assured me that it was definitely hot to be told what to do while masturbating sometimes, even for dominant men like him. That turned me on a lot.

Neither one of us was super familiar with JOIs, so we looked up videos together to learn about it. After watching a good number of them, I started to get the jist of how they worked and decided to come up with my own style, using techniques from the different videos I had seen, some of my own intuition and a lot of Jason’s advice. He has experimented with many different ways of masturbating and had some great ideas to share. Due to a combination of factors, my JOIs have elements of self-exploration, self-love, encouragement, domination/submission, challenges, cum denial, teasing, trainers, edging, positivity, motivational thoughts, a bit of LOA theory and some neurology/psychology pseudo-science. Why all that? Because masturbating is a total mindbody experience and I think you should be able to get the most out of it! I take fapping quite seriously.

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How We Met

I remember the first time I saw Jason because he looked radiant to me. It sounds dramatic and it was – well, at least to me. It was a hot Sunday afternoon in the spring of 2014. We were all on a big piece of property camping for a festival. After having experienced a rainy cold weekend, everyone was basking in the much-welcomed heat since the sun had come out and the clouds had cleared. Some people were doing yoga in the soft grass field, so we went to check it out. When I first saw Jason, he was sitting in the grass drinking coffee, chatting and laughing; surrounded by hippies. He looked genuinely happy and the people around him were laughing at what he was saying. His smile was carefree and I remember feeling welcomed by his presence. I also remember his coffee cup, which said: “I See Dumb People”. It was the perfect amount of joke and snark and it charmed me immediately. We didn’t end up getting any time to talk alone that weekend and I didn’t give him much thought after we left. It wasn’t until later that year that we really took notice of each other.

In the fall of 2014, my husband (with whom I had an open relationship) and I were invited to camp with Jason’s camp during another festival. Jason says that he took notice of me when he saw me haul the cooler out of our car with minimal effort – walking it over to the community kitchen. Since Jason had been the center point of contact regarding the organization of our camp, I talked with him first about the logistics. His leadership skills and in-charge attitude were so sexy to me that I didn’t waste any time letting my husband know I was interested in spending time alone with this gorgeous, auburn-haired man. Continue reading

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